Monday, May 7, 2007

Unexpected Text Message

This afternoon I received a text message from a friend, a classmate in highschool. Here's the text message:

Halu menjale! Jeni 2. Grad8 na pla aq. Alam mo, cum laude aq. Thanx ha! Remember ikaw ang nag initiate b4 dat i take up accountancy? Take cre! Muzta na kayo?
I was so surprised and delighted at the same time. She's one of my closest friends in high school. I remember then, I was the one who was decided to take up accountancy. And I convinced her to take the same course so that we will be together. But, a lot of things happened. I was forced to enroll in nursing, and she took up accountancy in different school. We lost in touch with each other, rarely a text or two. And then four years later, we both graduated. She excelled in the course that I used to want for myself. She deserved it because she's really hardworking and I'm very happy for her.

Congrats again Jeni!


Meantime Girl


She’s the one you call when you’re bored because she makes you laugh. She’s the one you talk to when you’re feeling down because she’s willing to lend an ear and be a friend. She’s not the one you call when you need a date to your company’s Christmas party, or to go dancing with on a Saturday night. She’s the one you spend time with between girlfriends, before you find "The One". You know, the one who you keep around in the meantime.

She’s not one of the guys, not a tomboy, but you don’t look at her as a "real" woman, either. She’s not bitchy enough, moody enough, or sexy enough to be seen in that light. She’s too laid-back, too easily amused by the same things your male buddies are amused by. She’s too understanding, too comfortable – she doesn’t make you feel nervous or excited the way a "real" woman does. But she’s cool, and nice, and funny, and attractive enough that when you’re lonely or horny and need intimate female companionship, she’ll do just fine. You don’t have to wine and dine her because she knows the real you already, and you don’t have any facades to keep up, no pretenses to preserve. You’re not trying to get anything of substance out of her. She’s not easy, but you know that she cares about you and is attracted to you, and that she’ll give you the intimacy you need. And you know you don’t have to explain yourself or the situation, that she’ll be able to cope with the fact that this isn’t the beginning of a relationship or that there’s any possibility that you have any real romantic feelings for her. It won’t bother her that you’ll get up in the morning, put on your pants, say goodbye, and go on a date with the woman you’ve been mooning over for weeks who finally agreed to go out with you. She’ll settle for a goodbye hug and a promise to call her and tell her how the date went. She’s just so cool . . . why can’t all women be like that?!

But deep down, if you really think about it (which you probably don’t because to you, the situation between the two of you isn’t important enough to merit any real thought), you know that it’s really not fair. You know that although she would never say it, it hurts her to know that despite all her good points and all the fun you two have, you don’t think she’s good enough to spend any real time with. Sure, it’s mostly her fault, because she doesn’t have to give in to your needs – she could play the hard-to-get bitch like the rest of them do, if she really wanted to. But you and she both know that she probably couldn’t pull it off. Maybe she’s too short, or a little overweight, or has a big birthmark on her forehead, or works at Taco Bell. Whatever the reason, somehow life has given her a lot of really great qualities but has left out the ones that men want (or think they want) in a woman. So she remains forever the funny friend, the steadfast companion, the secret lover, and you go on searching for your goddess who will somehow be everything you ever wanted in a woman.

She doesn’t captivate you with her beauty, or open doors with her smile. Mainly she blends in with the crowd. She’s safe. She doesn’t want to be the center of attention and turn the heads of everyone in the room. But she wants to turn someone’s head. She wants to be special to someone, too. We all do.

She has feelings. She has a heart. In fact, she probably has a bigger and better heart than any woman you’ve ever known because she’s had a front-row seat to The Mess That Is Your Life, and she likes you anyway. She obviously sees something worthwhile and redeeming in you because although you’ve given her nothing, absolutely no reason to still be around, she is.

Anyway, yeah. I’m a Meantime Girl. Been one more times than I care to admit. I don’t know the reason, really, and at this point I don’t even care. I just want to let every guy know who’s ever had the good fortune to have a Meantime Girl that we may be a lot of fun, but we cry, too. A lot. And someday we won’t be around.
- dunno who made this

Well, its the guy's loss if he let go of what he think is a "meantime girl". Letting go of a very special girl behind the mask of simplicity will be the biggest regret they'll have in their lives.

So guys don't take ME, a meantime girl (oh really?),

for granted

or

I'll skin you alive!!!

P.S. Did i mention that I'm also a Mean Girl?

Well, now you know. :)

Have a Good Day.

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

wow ha.. never expected dis.. not that i never expected jenni to graduate cum laude pro what i did not expect was that gumraduate na kayo, ako hindi pah..haha.. cge lng, lapit na..hehe..neweiz, amazing jud ka jale.. blogger tlga..nice idea!at least i'd get to know more about the things that have happened to you..congratz sa paggrad ha.. and gudluck dito sa blog mo..
p.s. congrats din to jenni..cum laude..=)

mEnjAyL said...

ok lang yan jo. you will graduate rin naman. hehehe. kaw pa? E ikaw yata ang pinakamatalino sa atin 3. Si jenni ang pinakamasipag..hehe. Anyway kwento ko lang. We also discussed about her lovelife. Aba, naka 2 pala sya. hehehe. Sa lovelife department naman ako ang huli sa inyo. Goodluck sa studies and hi mo narin ako kay Paul. Ingat palagi..